Find a quiet, safe and comfortable place to sit or walk, if movement suits you better.
Round 1 | Forgive Yourself
Forgiveness is like an expansive exhalation—out breath. It empties out all of the pain, anger, sadness, shame, self-righteous indignation that we know too well how to hold inside. Holding on to anger is like holding your breath. It is constricting, narrow, tight, painful. Always feeling out of breath. Gasping for air. We want to breathe. We must breathe. Breathing is not always easy. We want to be in control. Think to yourself: May I be loved. May I be safe. May I be strong. May I be healed.
Round 2 | Forgive Someone Who Has Hurt You Deeply
Forgiving someone else doesn’t mean waiting for an apology first from someone else. That apology may never come. That person may have no idea how much you are hurting. We can only breathe for ourselves. We must forgive. Holding a grudge is a false sense of security. Imagine that the person can feel your forgiveness. Think to yourself: May you be loved. May you be safe. May you be strong. May you be healed.
Round 3 | Forgive Someone Who Has Slighted You
Forgiving releases us. We cannot control what others do or say. We can choose whether or not to hold onto that hurt. That choice is in the space between the in breath and the out breath. We must re-learn to breathe. Re-spiration. Think to yourself: May you be loved. May you be safe. May you be strong. May you be healed.
Round 4 | Forgive All Living Things and Beings
Forgiveness is teshuva. It is turning the corner. It is a return to openness and possibility. We know we are alive because we have breath. All living things and beings breathe. Think to yourself: May all living things and beings be loved. May all living things and beings be safe. May all living things and beings be strong. May all living things and beings be healed.
We all share the same air. We want to live fully. We want to experience and do as much as we can. We all need as much air as possible. By forgiving we release ourselves. Only then can we really breathe.